Diapers, Delusions and Deadlines.

Pull up a chair, grab your favorite mug, and let's have a heart-to-heart. Today, I want to share a slice of my journey through the whirlwind of motherhood, and spill the beans on the nitty-gritty of self-care.

Ever had those moments of feeling overwhelmed, burnt out, or just plain emotionally drained? I get it. Motherhood is a wild ride, and sometimes it feels like we're barely hanging on. The frustration, the feeling of giving your all and wondering if this mom gig is pushing you to the brink – that's what they call Depleted Mother Syndrome, and, trust me, I've been there. Now, let's not forget the dads; they're in the trenches with us. Enter Depleted Dad Syndrome – when the daily grind becomes a monotonous routine, slowly chipping away at enthusiasm. According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) experts, us parents, especially moms, struggle to prioritize our own needs while ensuring our little ones, and big ones, are thriving. It's like walking a tightrope between diapers, delusions and deadlines.

Amidst the chaos, it's crucial not to be too hard on yourself. Positive self-talk is key. Instead of dwelling on difficulties, remind yourself that you can navigate challenging seasons. You are exactly what your children need.

What's the golden rules of self-care? That it's a lifestyle, and not static. Embrace the belief that you are worthy of self-care, and remember, don't compare your journey to others'. Start small – find what makes you feel centered, incorporate it into your daily life, set goals, find support, and adjust your approach as you go.

Now, let's get real about self-care – not the bubble bath and scented candles kind (although those are great too). Here are my tried-and-true tips, sprinkled with a bit of personal touch:

1.       Eat well and stay hydrated: I confess, getting enough water can be a struggle. Recently, I stumbled upon Tru Lemon, and it's been a game-changer. Adding a hint of flavor makes my water intake a bit more enjoyable. And seriously, I just need to get up from my desk more – glass in hand. Overall, we eat pretty well. My problem is snacking, taking a bite (or a handful) here and there, adds up! I've tried loggin my food, I've tried specific diets or healthy eating plans, but what i find works best for me is just being mindful of what I put in my mouth. I also try to figure out if I'm really hungry, only thirsy, just bored, or grazing.

2.     Resting between activities: I didn't master this one until baby number 4. I'm embracing the fact that the dishes can wait, and farming that chore out to my 15 year old. Now, I savor those moments. The to-do list can chill; it's my time.

3.     Establish a morning routine: Okay, this one I'm still working on. A 2024 goal for sure. Who can resist an extra few winks? After getting up I'm better, its the initial reaction to ignore my alarm that I need to work on.

4.     Look good, feel good: Personally, I like blow drying my hair and trying out new makeup trends. It's a quick mood boost that doesn't require a full spa day.

5.     Exercise and get fresh air: Daily exercise is definately on my agenda these days. I totally hopped on the gym train, over 40 fitness routine. But I've also learned not to beat myself up if I miss a day. A little self-check on whether I'm being lazy or genuinely unable to fit it in usually helps kick me into gear. (And David Goggins in my head. You know if you know, look him up)

6.     Cook easy meals: Dinner? Oh, it's become a chore. Menu planning on Sunday (displayed on a white board in my kitchen so as to avoid confusion) with healthy options is my lifesaver. If someone doesn't like it, they know where the kitchen is.

7.     It's okay not to be okay: This is a good one. I find I need to embrace the bad days as bad days. I have to drag myself out of my own negative thoughts, as hard as it can be. I'm not failing at parenting or life. I can do good things. Everyone isn't out to get my. Opening up about my feelings has been a gradual process, but it's made a world of difference in my marriage and relationships. Sharing, even a little, goes a long way.

8.     Sharing is caring: And that's what I'm doing right here. Sometimes, just talking about it, sharing experiences, and building a support network can be the best self-care.

We're all overworked and exhausted, but recognizing the weariness is the first step. Moms, prioritize yourself – you are worthy of the care you extend to others.